In continuation of the 4 horsemen series, today we will be talking about the third Horseman – Defensiveness Defensiveness is the typical response to contempt (the third horseman). Defensiveness is the quality of being anxious to challenge or avoid criticism or it can also be behaviour intended to defend or protect. Gottman defines it as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood … Continue reading 3rd Horseman | 4 Horsemen Series (Part 3) | Shalini