Everyone has a limited about of patience in them. No matter how accommodating you might be, or how patient you might be. You will not behave that way forever. At some point, you will have had enough of other people taking you for granted. Yes, that is what happens if you let go too much. Once, you said, “it’s okay, I will manage”. Then another time, and another, and another. After a point, people will assume you’ll manage and they will stop asking. Eventually, you will start feeling frustrated. This frustration will come out in one way or the other. Frustration is the feeling of being upset or annoyed due to the inability to achieve or change something. This emotion is not particularly bad for you given you know how to identify it and cope with it healthily. If you are unable to do so it can have negative effects on your mental wellbeing.
Psychologist anytime, anywhere shared with us that there are two types of frustrations: Internal and external. Internal frustration is when you are unable to achieve or receive something you want due to personal deficiencies (real or imaginary). Then we have external frustration, here you are unable to achieve the required goal due to factors external to you, such as a roadblock or unavailability of the resource needed to complete the task, etc.
Some things that can be caused due to frustrations are:
- Giving up
- Loss of confidence
- Eating issues, among other things
To deal with frustration effectively you need to know your toleration level. If you have high tolerance then it is easier for you to cope with it but if you have low tolerance to it you might want to follow a few things shared by Verwell Mind listed below:
- Improve on your emotional intelligence: try regulating your emotional response to the situation or the person that frustrates you and even practice empathy. Tell yourself that all emotions are fleeting.
- Distract yourself: if you fixate on the source of your frustration try doing other things that divert your mind from the situation itself.
- Practice Mindfulness: this is a key to dealing with frustration but requires practice. Practice mindfulness for 10 minutes every day and you will be able to ground your emotions much better.
- Change your attitude: what we find frustrating will frustrate us, as simple as that. But sometimes what we find frustrating isn’t even in our control to change or work on. Then why let it make us feel that way? Make a circle of control for the situation that frustrates you. What you can control you work on and what you cannot, let it be.
- Draw on social support: we need people with whom we can talk to about things that bother us. It can be family, friends, psychologist, etc. But connect with someone who makes you feel listened to. They don’t have to help you with it, just be there to hear it out.
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