To the one who’s hard to come by,
Love is not complicated. Love is not a math test. Contrary to what people say, it is simple. Love is the content you feel when you watch them widen their eyes when they talk about something they like. It is their thumb slightly caressing your hand when they hold it while crossing the road or their tug on your arm when they bury her head in your chest while watching a horror movie.
They will make you smile on the days you won’t even feel like talking, they’ll always help you overcome your insecurities rather than bagging on them while fighting and they will make you sing the cheapest songs on the top of your voice without the fear of being judged.
Love makes you a better person, but more than that, it accepts you for who you are. They’ll join in your obsession over Marvel heroes rather than accusing you of being childish, they’ll have random conversations about how keeping one foot out of the blanket is the best way to sleep, how desserts should always be eaten before dinner in a buffet (duh!), how Ross and Rachel were on a break or not, and you both will doze off while gazing at each other on a video call.
And, during one of these conversations or moments, you’ll realise that love isn’t really a feeling, it’s a person. It’s the person. It’s always been that person. And, even if you haven’t found that special someone yet, it’s not the end of the world. Take yourself out on dates, pamper yourself with gifts and guilty pleasures, and focus on your personal growth. If you have had a tough week, take the weekend off and travel somewhere; get off your phone and give yourself some ‘me time.’ Consider yourself important too; love yourself as much as you love your friends and family. Happiness and self-love are interconnected, and we all deserve to be happy. Sometimes people need to love themselves before they try to love someone else. If you can cultivate a happy and healthy relationship with yourself, you will be able to do it with others as well.
But, trust me when I say this – if you’ve already found someone like that, ‘the one’ as people say, don’t let them go. Such people are hard to come by and trust me; they’ll be worth the wait.