There is many a slip between the cup and the lip. This old proverb is true in more ways than you ever think about. Its literal meaning is that anything can happen at any time irrespective of what one thinks.

Let me ask you a question (and please be honest with yourself) How many times has it happened to you that your brain said something to you and by the time that thought reached your lips, something entirely different came out? (surprising even you at times). I am sure this has put you in your thinking mode. Though the distance between the brain and lips is about 6 inches literally but this distance can change a lot of things. What your brain is saying and what comes out of your mouth will generally end up changing things for you.

Some people understand that this happens to them (though they do not know why) and to avoid this unexpectedly changing their life think very had before saying anything. Take it from someone who has done that all her life it is not in the least in your favour. In the long run it will leave a bad taste in your mouth and unhappiness in your life. Let me tell you a little more about this process.

 This happens more often that you would like to admit even to yourself. It is absolutely normal. We all know that we have a conscious brain and a subconscious brain, both of these parts are constantly sparing with each other, we just don’t realise it. Going back to my last post, remember the two sides of the same coin? This is it again. Both parts of the brain are the two sides of the same coin and are constantly in conflict with each other, as we don’t know what our subconscious mind is thinking and we manage to sometimes surprise ourselves with what we just said but it knows what your deepest desires are and what you truly need. You might think that it is not right you might convince yourself that it is not correct, but that part of your brain knows you better than you yourself know, listen to it.

When you reach your 40’s, 50’s and you are still sad, looking back you will realise that taking control of your thought always and saying what everyone was expecting you to say has got you nothing but unhappiness. Was it all worth it? Did the people whose approval you craved for all your life by being what they wanted you to be was worth it? (Especially as you never got it) What was the end result- they still don’t approve what you say or do and you have made yourself unhappy by not listing to yourself. All you got was unhappiness all around.

What I am trying to tell you here is that don’t always control what you are saying. Let your subconscious brain take some of the decision for you. There is no one more important in your life than yourself and you have the right to be happy irrespective of what people around you think. Please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Let it happen, take control of your life and be happy.

Shalini